A continuation from my previous blog post, especially on a day where so many conversations happen over a few hours wedding dinner and continued over a yum cha session.
Dr. Love is always curious if he said anything interesting when he is drunk, hence this conversation is documented.
If you are reading this when you are sober, let me know if you agree.
Most of the time especially after any wedding dinner, conversations will mostly revolve around love and relationships.
Unsurprisingly, it always happens. I guess the love is in the air, together forever mood is deeply instilled in everyone’s mood and mind.
Half way through our yum cha session, Dr. Love made a rather shocking conversation which makes me wonder and curious if most men think the same.
Dr. Love: I want to go home la. Tired la.
Gigi: So early? Last time you go back very late wor.
Dr. Love: Tomorrow got to work la.
Me: Hey.. you got to work, I also got to work. I also not yet bising.
Gigi: Yeah lo. Don’t know who that day say “you got to work, I also got towork”.
DT: Don’t kacau people la. He need to go home and call dear dear la.
Me, Gigi and DT: *laugh out loud*
Dr. Love: No la. Your head la. I don’t do that okay
Me: Haha… Sure or not?
Dr. Love: Ya la. Don’t make it a habit okay!
Me: What do you mean don’t make it a habit?
Gigi: Yeah, what do you mean?
Dr. Love: Yeah what? If you always call her then each time you have to go back home even in the middle of yum cha and call her.
Me: Habit? Then why not eat rice once a day. Don’t make it a habit to eat rice three times a day. Or maybe eat every three days. Don’t make it a habit to eat every day.
Gigi: Ya, no one force you to do so. You guys willingly do it when you are courting her and when you guys first get together.
Me: No one ask you to go back in the middle of yum cha and call her. You can always do it when you are back home after yum cha.
Dr. Love: Ya right. Then they will wait for you and then merajuk because you didn’t call or call late.
DT: Ya lo. They will say “Lei ji mm ji ngo dang lei ding wa ga? Lei gu ngo mm sai fan gau ga” (Do you know I am waiting for your call? You think I don’t need to sleep?)
Dr. Love: Ya, it makes us feel guilty yum cha. You know, I go out yum char only not do anything wrong also.
Me: No one said you did anything wrong. But is it really that hard to give them a call when you are back?
Dr. Love: Can not do that la. If always do that, then one day you didn’t do they will say “YOU CHANGED. Last time you also not like this”.
Gigi: Ya, no one force you to do so. You guys willingly do it when you are courting her and when you guys first get together. *repeatedly*
Gigi: If you can do it then, why can’t you do it now?
Dr. Love: You all don’t understand la (favourite guys quote), when you got boyfriend then you know.
Me: Ya right. We all always don’t understand.
Dr. Love: Wait till you got boyfriend then you know.
Gigi: Ya, you wait la then.
Dr. Love: Ya la. You girls always also say you are right la. Everything say you all right, you all will be happy. Even you all wrong, but say you all right then you all will be happy.
Sometimes I wonder, does most guys feel most girls are that troublesome and bad?
If girls are that horrible, why everyone is pressuring, advising everyone else to be in a relationship?
Gigi made a good point – when you are in the courting stage, you will want to call the girl and talk day and night, long hours and uncounted times a day, send her countless text messages and make full use of the 160 characters. Doing it every other day for months and now you saying you don’t want to make it a habit after being in a relationship?
Is it that difficult and troublesome to just give her a call when you reach home?
A 5 minutes short call is all it takes. And you have the guts to blame her for saying “YOU CHANGED”?
I am quite certain many guys would feel girls don’t understand.
Honestly, neither side will ever understand.
And an honest truth and something many hate to admit, yes you have changed. Period.
It’s not a crime. Adrenaline wares off, passion faded, love is no longer at its peak.
Just be brave and admit it and move on.
So stop telling us to “try to understand”.
Cause if you can’t try to understand us, you can’t expect others will be able to.
Just be the real you, do what you always do.
If you are not going to call always, then don’t even start.
Do what you always do consistently, and not just for the sake of courting her.
Else, I’m sure the “YOU’VE CHANGED” situation will pop up again and again.